You Complete Me. A Journey of Fulfillment: Day 21

Copyright Tam Black 2014 Designed for
Copyright Tam Black 2014
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Everywhere fulfillment is, we are.

Fulfillment is everywhere.

Fulfillment is.

We are.



We went through round one of this journey (days 1-10) focusing on ourselves, the experiencing subjects of the journey. That only makes sense; I’m doing this journey so that I can experience greater fulfillment.

For the second round (days 11-20) the guiding thoughts were focused on a “you”, but the “you” was non-specific. You could have been directing the guiding thoughts to another person (e.g. “Everywhere fulfillment is, you are”) or you could have imagined someone directing those words to you. Furthermore, the “you” could have been singular or plural, depending on your imagination.

Now we begin round 3. This round intentionally joins us, as we. I am not just I; you are not just you. We are together, acknowledging “I” am incomplete without “you.” And we are all incomplete without each other.

As we, we are equal.

We are equal in fulfillment, because fulfillment is everywhere, filled full.

One big thing about this view of fulfillment is that we can be infinitely inclusive, because fulfillment does not discriminate. Everyone can join with us, because you and I are equal with everyone. Fulfillment fills everyone, equally.

What if every person on the planet had this outlook? No one would see his or her individual interests as more important than another’s. Everyone would have more than enough to give…and would want to!

This view reminds me of two things.

First, I had a friend describe a visit to Japan, where, at the dinner table, no one replenished his or her own food or drink. If one person’s water was empty, that person would say to another person, “would you like some water?” If one person wanted more rice, that person would say to another person, “would you like some more rice?” Of course, it was not linear like that. My friend described it as a constant interactive dance with everyone offering this or that to another person; no one ever being “low” on anything.

Second, there is a scene in the movie “The East” (in which a private investigator infiltrates a cult-like enviro-terrorist group), where the infiltrator is introduced to the dining culture of the group. Everyone (including the infiltrator) is sitting at the dinner table in strait jackets, the bowls are full of soup, next to each bowl is a wooden spoon with a long handle. The leader of the group says to the infiltrator, “Since you’re new, we’ll wait ‘til you begin.” With obvious dismay and belligerence, the infiltrator refuses; the leader and the group insist…. The infiltrator gives in and does the best she can—tilting her head way down, slurping, making a mess.

After she begins (this was all they wanted her to do), the rest of the people start eating by lifting up the handle of the spoon in their mouths, filling the spoon, then offering it to the person next to them.

These examples aren’t so much about fulfillment, per se. But they resonate with the idea of when everyone gives and shares, there is more than enough for all, and everyone can be filled.

To me, these examples also drive home the point that people create their environments and the culture they live in. American culture is saturated with a “me first”, “I want”, “look out for #1” mentality, which brings about the experience of competition, not having enough, and just a lot of stress about getting.

I am prone to it too; it’s a characteristic that is hard to escape even with attention and awareness to changing it, when the culture breeds and perpetuates it. This isn’t an excuse; I hope you know me well enough by now to know that it’s all about taking on these so-called “characteristics” within myself. One thought at a time, one situation at a time, one interaction at a time. This is how we change the character of the culture.

Let it be me. Let it be we. Let’s do this. Together.