When You Know You Know Better: Journey of Courage – Day 31

Copyright Tam Black 2015 Designed for susanwithpearls.com
Copyright Tam Black 2015
Designed for susanwithpearls.com

Guiding Thought

Life is a process of Self-discovery. I embrace All of Life, for All of Life is who I am. As I embrace Life as my Self, I come to understand Life as me. Life embraces me gently and joyfully in return.


Welcome to Round 4! What a great Journey so far! It’s been very enlightening. But… isn’t that the point? Thanks for being here! 9 days to go!

See an explanation for how the Guiding Thoughts change for this round here.

I am learning about my Self. I am learning what is not my Self.

My Self is Love and Life, it is kindness, compassion; it is loving and kind thoughts and actions. What is not love or loving or kind is not my Self.

I need not embrace those things—thoughts, emotions, behaviors—which are not my Self. I need not try to “make them” OK, to “make them” part of my Self. I need not justify, compensate, allow for, or make excuses for those things which are not my Self.

This is a hard thing to wrap my head around. Aren’t I supposed to accept “everything”? Isn’t Love unconditional and all there is? Yes…but no. The things that are not Love, and therefore not my Self, are not anything that is real. So accepting them is like accepting a movie as “real”. I can accept those things, those parts of me as something, but I do not need to accept them as real, and certainly not as “me”. “Nothing real can be threatened; nothing unreal exists.”

If I accept as real something that is not real, I am confusing my self with my Self. My Self is all there is; identifying with “negative” or fearful thoughts is a denial of my Self. (notice, I am saying identifying with. This does not mean I can’t or shouldn’t have negative or fearful thoughts, after all, they do come up sometimes, but the point is not to identify with them. They are not you/me/we.) If I allow myself to identify with negative or fearful thoughts, I am giving strength to that which is not real.

My Self is all there is, all I Am. Therefore, what I embrace must be my Self of Love. This Self is the Self of Life, my real Self.

As I learn to embrace my Self of Love, when I allow its expression, that is what inspires Life to embrace me gently and joyfully in return.

When I allow my self—my less than higher Self—to claim my experiences as itself, I’ve pushed-out my upper-case Self. Life and Love, as embodied in my Self recedes; my identity always precariously balances between the choice of what I allow into my sphere of identity; what strengthens my Self? What strengthens my self? The choice is mine.

I want more of Life-Love.

I must not identify with the negative-fearful.

Yet, sometimes the negative-fearful comes up, and comes out. Sometimes I am so “in it” it feels like all I am, all I know of myself, even when I know better, and know that I know better.

The more I strengthen my identity with and through Love, the more I can dis-identify with the negative-fearful. Life is a process of Self-discovery, and of self-release.

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