We listen to our hearts and with our hearts. Our hearts pay attention to each other; we listen to each other’s inner voice, the unspoken words. We care, and we attend with love to each other’s deeper, silent needs, asking each other’s heart, “How may I strengthen you and raise your energy?”
-Play the Guiding Thought here (loops automatically).
Journey of the Heart audio created by Brad Vanlandingham for Susanwithpearls-
Sometimes heart-attention is not what people want. I came to this realization, about 5 years ago, when I met someone (in a then-ongoing work-related situation) who wanted not heart-attention, but ego attention.
In my experience, regardless of people’s egos, there is always a part of their heart that I can “reach”. When I bring my attention to my heart, and ask them what of real value I can give, most people’s hearts respond. In these cases, it’s not the words that matter, it’s the connection, the feeling of warmth and general good will.
So, having someone outright reject a heart connection was new and odd.
The more I connected, the more I saw that this person actually felt unsupported and attacked. Eventually, that made sense to me: I most certainly was not supporting the ego, and even though I was not attacking, I could see how the ego could feel attacked. Not supporting it translates as complete disregard, translates as attack.
It took, quite literally, years of my persistence and refusal to “feed the ego”, but finally there was that familiar feeling of connecting with the heart.
A word of caution, or perhaps a word of experience and (maybe) wisdom: If you run into this kind of situation, where the person is so dominated by the ego that they can not (or perhaps refuse) to recognize a heart connection on any level, tread lightly; be careful. We are out here spreading the love, spreading the light, but some people aren’t ready to receive it, and fear-responses can have enormous (and unpleasant) repercussions or backlash. In some respects, I took a beating–emotionally, psychically, mentally– throughout the time that I was “dealing” with this person. If you are in this kind of situation, be very self aware; be aware of your energetic limits; find others with heart wisdom to share with and receive support from (you can always email me); remove yourself from the situation if you need to; let people evolve at their own pace.