Golden Rule Specifics -Fulfillment (1.6.19)

Copyright Tam Black 2018
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Guiding Thought

May those who seek, help others find;

May those who sorrow, be compassionate;

May those who are lost, light a path for another;

May those who question or doubt, give guidance;

May those who worry, lift the burden of another;

May those who hide, see their own light in the eyes of a stranger;

May you give peace, no matter what.

Sharing

What do you want when you are seeking?

What do you want when you are sad (or lonely)?

What do you want when you are lost?

What do you want when you question or doubt?

What do you want when you worry?

What do you want when you are afraid of revealing yourself?

What do you want always, and forever?

I am not asking these questions rhetorically. Think about your feelings, and what you want in order to relieve that feeling. The examples in the Guiding Thought are meant to be both specific ways that you can act when you are feeling those emotions, and also springboards for you to come up with other ways to give when you are feeling certain emotions.

These are specific examples of the Golden Rule, “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”.

In order to fulfill the Golden Rule, you need to know for yourself what you would want someone to do unto you, so that you can then do that.

Go as deeply as you can into your feeling. Think about where it came from, and when you first started feeling that feeling. What does it relate to? Who was involved? Can you remember feeling that feeling at other points in your life? With other people? What did you want when that emotion was triggered, that you did not get? How did you then respond? Did your response soothe the situation or escalate it?

Most people today do not live by the Golden Rule. Instead, they live by the rule, “Do unto others as you think they have done unto you”. This means: if someone thinks they have been betrayed, they betray; if someone feels put-down, put-upon, or burdened, they treat someone with disdain, cruelty, or disrespect. The overarching theme is, “When I make you feel bad, I feel better”.

But the “feeling better” in this case is not a true feeling better. It’s a band-aid for deeper emotional hurt, a momentary salve to forget how deeply one is wounded.

The true healing comes when you give what you would want to receive. Remember, when you give something you are a) confirming that you already have it b) extending it, growing it, expanding it.

The good news is you can begin small, with people you don’t even know, just to try it out. If you are feeling lonely, and you wish for a true connection, go to the grocery store and give the checkout person a genuine smile; feel it from your heart, and make eye contact. You don’t even need to say anything… or if you say, “have a nice day” (again) feel the words genuinely in your heart, that is enough.

You and other people are not separate–if you are feeling something, then at some level everyone else is, too. You don’t need to know what to say to someone else. You only need to know what you would want to hear and say that.

You heal yourself, when you give to others what you would want to receive. When you heal yourself, you heal the world.

 

I Got That Joy Joy Joy Joy -Fulfillment (1.6.17)

Copyright Tam Black 2018
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Guiding Thought

Your joy unifies! Accepting your joy, acknowledging it, sharing it, and expressing it heals you and heals others. To be wholly joyful means to be wholly Love…means to be wholly your Self.

Sharing

What does it mean to heal in this context?

It’s more than a physical healing, like healing a scrape, or broken bone. It’s more than healing from a virus or a bacterial infection. It’s more than psychological healing; it’s more than emotional healing. These types of healing address a body, a mind, or emotions–just one facet of a human being. These things are what most people are talking about when they talk about “healing”.

In the context of the Guiding Thought, it’s really unification that heals. If joy unifies, then by accepting your joy (acknowledging it and sharing it), you are sharing its quality of unification. And remember, when you give something not only are you confirming to yourself that you have it in the first place, but you are expanding and intensifying it. So, as you give joy to others, you simultaneously make it stronger within yourself, and spark another’s joy within them.

This type of healing does not address a body, a mind, or emotions each independently, but rather addresses anything that is perceived as separate or fragmented, regardless of where it resides in a person’s being.

The Truth of your Being…is Love. Being Love is being Wholly ourselves. This is our “healed” state–our natural state of being the Love we are. Anything else is “illness”.

“Healing” in the context of the Guiding Thought simply means to be the Self you are, the Love you are. Love makes us whole because Love is wholeness, and is what we are.

This wholeness is the healed state, in which everyone understands and Knows their Self in Love, which is the same Love as everyone else. No one is “other. No one is “separate”. No one is “less than”. We are all that beautiful, all-pervading, all-encompassing, infinite Love.

What’s not to be Joyful? If you were there, wouldn’t you want everyone to Know themselves as that Love, to join you in that joy?

 

 

 

Really Real Reality -Fulfillment (1.6.9)

Copyright Tam Black 2018
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Guiding Thought

 May those who seek, help others find;

May those who sorrow, be compassionate;

May those who are lost, light a path for another;

May those who question or doubt, give guidance;

May those who worry, lift the burden of another;

May those who hide, see their own light in the eyes of a stranger;

May we all give peace, no matter what.

 

Sharing

You may ask:

How can I help other find, if I am looking?

How can I be compassionate, when I have such pain?

How can I light a path for another if I am lost?

How can I speak wisely, or give an answer or confidence, when I, too, question and doubt?

How can I lift the burden of another, when my own burdens are so heavy?

How can I see my own light, when I work so hard at hiding?

How can I give peace in this time of such chaos and unrest?

The answer to these questions is the same for all of them, and if you are following along, it was answered on Day 6:

“You” (your lower, personality self), can try to limit your Self. And it can succeed in your experience of It, but not in the reality of It.

In the Reality of your Self, there is no looking, there is no pain, there is no “lost”, there is no doubt; there are no burdens, there is only Light. All is Peace.

The Truth is: All of reality is yours, and is You.

The only reality that exists in Reality is Love…a pure, blissful consciousness of the Truth of the Reality of Love. Everything else is your lower mind, playing tricks on you, the so-called reality that your lower self has developed and constructed as its own kingdom that it rules.

The way you prove the reality of your Self is by giving and sharing it. You cannot give something you do not have. You have everything in Reality. You can give everything in reality without sacrifice to either your self or your Self.

So,

Whenever you feel like you lack something,

Whenever you feel something that you identify as “pain”,

Whenever you feel lost,

Whenever you question or doubt,

Whenever you feel the weight of any burden,

Whenever you want to shrink and hide,

Whenever discord disrupts your peace…

Remember. You are the Truth of your Self. The way you prove the reality of your Self is by giving and sharing it. You cannot give something you do not have. You have everything in Reality…This is because you are sharing what is Real, what is Constructive, what is created in Love, with Love, by Love, for Love.

 

 

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  1. Hire me as your Spiritual Coach, you may sign up for a personalized Journey with me Click here for more information. Or I offer 1-on-1 spiritual coaching sessions. This is non-religion specific, and open to everyone, even atheists, though of course we would call something like “self-analysis coach” for a self-identified atheist.
  2. Indulge in one of my healing services: Jharra, Reiki, Fire Ceremony (see withpearls.com for more information).
  3. Send me a monetary gift via paypal: paypal.me/SusanBillmaier (please note “gift” in the transaction).
  4. Tell a friend about this site, the coaching or healing services.
  5. Invite me to interview on a podcast or for an article.

All proceeds go toward increasing love, light, and a consciousness of Oneness in the world. Thank you for your contribution that benefits All.

These Journeys are always available on this site at no charge. I also provide Jharra, Reiki, and Fire Ceremonies at no-charge to those who ask.

You Are Your Highest Self -Fulfillment (1.6.4)

Copyright Tam Black 2018
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Guiding Thought

My Self wills only to extend Itself. Extending, sharing, and creating as Divine Love, through Divine Mind, is my sole purpose. My Self knows its fullness in Divine Love and wills only to liberate me to fulfill my purpose and my joy.

Sharing

Higher-Self…lower-self. One is your Truest Self, which embodies the ideals of Love, kindness, simplicity, compassion, respect for All, Wisdom, etc. The other is the stand-in-on-earth for the Higher-Self; it takes all that Love, compassion, wisdom, and respect of the Higher-Self, and presses it through a filter we call “3rd dimensional reality” which is represented by a body, mind, and personality. Though these two “selves” are really the same, too often the filters don’t allow all that Love, compassion, wisdom, and respect through, so what comes out into 3rd dimensional reality does not look anything like the Higher-Self.

But…you are your Higher Self. It’s just a matter of removing the obstructions that prevent it from coming through.

And…until you realize and live your unity with your Higher Self, it still seems as though “you” are not your higher self. It seems as though “you” and “It” are different and separate.

And this can create some confusion, because all we have at this point in time is language to try to explain.

The Guiding Thought seems to indicate there are two selves: The one which wills (the Higher-Self), and the one which extends, shares, and creates as Divine Love through Divine mind, in the world, and through a body.

The hang-up is that whole in the world and through a body thing. How many of us Know the Will of our True Self, and can live it?

What percentage of your True Self gets through your 3rd dimensional, personality filters?

Until your 3rd dimensional, personality filters allow at least 51% of your True Self through, “you” will still think of “you” as other-than your Highest Self, because your lower self dominates your personality and impressions.

But make no mistake. You are the one who wills only to extend Your Self. Extending, sharing, and creating as Divine Love, through Divine Mind, is your sole purpose. And You know your fullness in Divine Love and you will only to liberate yourself to fulfill your purpose and joy.

When you reach a point of knowing and accepting your unity with your Self. Everything you do becomes It acting as you, through you, for Its (your) highest good.

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Ways to support this work:

  1. Hire me as your Spiritual Coach, you may sign up for a personalized Journey with me Click here for more information. Or I offer 1-on-1 spiritual coaching sessions. This is non-religion specific, and open to everyone, even atheists, though of course we would call something like “self-analysis coach” for a self-identified atheist.
  2. Indulge in one of my healing services: Jharra, Reiki, Fire Ceremony (see withpearls.com for more information).
  3. Send me a monetary gift via paypal: paypal.me/SusanBillmaier (please note “gift” in the transaction).
  4. Tell a friend about this site, the coaching or healing services.
  5. Invite me to interview on a podcast or for an article.

All proceeds go toward increasing love, light, and a consciousness of Oneness in the world. Thank you for your contribution that benefits All.

These Journeys are always available on this site at no charge. I also provide Jharra, Reiki, and Fire Ceremonies at no-charge to those who ask.

Trust -Abundance (1.5.27)

Copyright Tam Black 2018
Designed for susanwithpearls.com

Guiding Thought

Our consciousness is the gateway through which Divine Love flows, materializing our infinite Supply. We are now conscious of our own Inner Divine Presence—Infinite Love—expressing through us, providing us with the means to be aware, to understand, and to know It as our Self– more and more!

Sharing

We’ve added a kitten to our family. He was abandoned in our garage at the beginning of June; at about 8 weeks old, he was near-feral. It took about 6 weeks of working with him– small steps every day, feeding him, getting closer to him, sitting with him, playing with him– for him to let me pet him. Starting in mid-July he came in the house, and has been making himself more and more comfortable, and is now a full member of the family.

Working with a near-feral cat has been a learning experience in trust building. He completely trusts me now, and I’ve never done anything to make him question whether or not I am trust-worthy; and he is very gentle with me when he plays, keeping his claws retracted, and his bites soft.

Yesterday while playing with him, I was able to pick him up and “body slam” him (Gently!) onto his back. He did not miss a beat, barely noticed I’d just turned him upside down, and just kept playing.

Throughout the past several weeks, I’ve been thinking about the human-animal relationship. It’s a big leap from a cat to a lion, but I can see how it’s possible to be able to hug lions:

I think trust has a lot to do with it. Somehow, the lions know they can trust this guy, and he trusts them in return–they know how to bite gently and keep their claws retracted just like my little Monster.

I think about the relationship I have with Monster. We have never had a moment in which we have done something to betray our mutual trust. Sure, I’ve done things he doesn’t like: treating him for fleas, taking him to the vet, etc., but I’ve never hurt him and I’ve always been gentle with him. I pay attention. I pay attention to how he’s responding, I don’t push him, and I take small steps with him so he can get accustomed to how I am handling him (like when I put flea shampoo on him, a little bit at a time! or when I pick him up, just a few seconds at first!)

Trust is the path to go back to the “Garden of Eden”, when humans and animals co-existed in peace.

Imagine trusting each other first. How many times a day do you question someone’s motives, wonder if they will betray you or back stab you, wonder if you can believe them, if they will follow through, if they will do what they say they will do, if they will be gentle with you…if you can trust them.

Imagine a world in which people trusted each other–pure trust. Imagine the freedom we would have without the encumbrance of wondering if someone will hurt us, betray us, or deceive us. Imagine the entire world this way– personal relationships, professional relationships, businesses, governments…

 

 

 

True Wealth -Abundance (1.5.26)

Copyright Tam Black 2018
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Guiding Thought

Increasing our thoughts of Love and our attitude of service dispels all fear of lack and limitation. As we serve more people with Love, money and wealth flow abundantly to us. We use money and wealth with love and wisdom to create lives we love through our highest vision.

Sharing

“If everyone works diligently and with love, there will be peace throughout the world.” ~Haidakhan Baba

What is True Wealth? What is Real Abundance?

Did you know that it’s estimated that about 5 million people die each year due to unclean drinking water?

One out of six children — roughly 100 million — in developing countries is underweight. Poor nutrition causes nearly half (45%) the deaths in children under age five – 3.1 million children each year.

Each year, over 1.6 million people worldwide lose their lives to violence. Violence is among the leading causes of death for people aged 15–44 years worldwide.

The Four Noble Truths of Buddha Dharma states 1) as a human, there is suffering in life. 2) The good news is that we can understand the causes of that suffering and 3) that suffering has an end. 4) we find the end of suffering through the path of living ethically, meditating, and developing wisdom.

Suffering can end. Real wealth and abundance is the Peace at the end of suffering.

We can find practical solutions to end human suffering. There are solutions even now. We must serve each other, all over the earth, to relieve suffering. There is no Peace until there is Peace for all.

 

Tantrum -Abundance (1.5.5)

Copyright Tam Black 2018
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Guiding Thought

My Inner Divine Love Presence Knows what I need or desire before I do. It is constantly providing me with ideas, material goods, situations, and interactions to fulfill all my needs and desires. I relax and allow the Presence Within to supply me with everything I need.

Reflection

I feel in a way that I have not felt in a very long time. I feel contrary, conflicted, and angry at the Guiding Thought. It’s like that part of me which used to feel that way has returned, stomping its feet, shaking its fist, denying and throwing a tantrum. It wants to think and believe that it is not getting what it wants. It wants something else…saying in effect, “My Divine Love Presence is not providing me with squat. This is not what I signed up for. How can you even think that this is what I want, or what is ‘good for me…’ Screw all y’all, my Divine Love Presence is not looking out for me.” Of course, with this attitude, there is no relaxing or trusting…

But here’s the thing, a more accurate statement is: I want to feel that way…or that part of me wants to feel that way.

I cannot confirm that I actually feel that way; but I can see the part of me that does want to feel it. It (that part) wants to rebel, wants to just be mad, wants to not believe any of this, wants to crawl back into its hole and forget about all of this expansion, evolution crap (…and that feeling has seeped in to “me”… I feel some sense of despair and hopelessness, and want to just stop doing this…what’s the point?)

The reason I don’t think I feel this way, is because when I read the Guiding Thought, I know it’s right. I can’t argue with it. I’ve gotten to a point in my prayers and communication with my Inner Divine Self/God that I say regularly, “You know my heart; you know what I need; I trust you to provide what I need, even if I don’t understand…” I’ve really gotten to a point of relaxed trust and surrender.

This, though, “even if I don’t understand”, is huge. I think, perhaps that angry tantrum-throwing part is reflecting my severe lack of understanding.

I understand very, very little. I don’t know why I’m here either in the physicality of “here” or in the existential sense of my presence on this earth.

I’ve been coming to terms with how little I understand for a long time, I guess. I’ve also been working on surrender and accepting Divine Will for a long time. Maybe this is culmination of all that?

It’s like I’m watching the child throw a tantrum from 30 feet away, while “I” stand over here, still trusting, still knowing that I am where I am supposed to be, that everything is working out how it’s supposed to… just watching that child fatigue itself with a tantrum.