Good Enough– Worth (1.3.17)

Copyright Tam Black 2018
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Guiding Thought

Claim who you are, the essence of your Self, established in and by Love. Your Self shines with the strength, beauty, and power of its essence, Love. As you open to your Self, accept your Self, and Love your Self, the Life of Unity infuses all your activity and transforms your consciousness. Life as your Self renews your Joy and restores your trust in Life itself.

Reflection

I like patterns. I like identifying constancy within change. I like the predictability of a pattern, and the learning opportunity if it changes. This is true for me whether the pattern is material or spiritual, though spiritual patterns are much more elusive.

In a way, patterns are a study in observing cause and effect. “If I do this, I get this result”. If I change this slightly…what happens?

I am currently at a point in one of my own patterns in which I think I know what I should be doing, but it’s hard to get myself to do it. I feel disconnected, and don’t know what to rely on, or what action will achieve the result I want.

This not knowing or uncertainty is part of a larger pattern of fluctuation between certainty and uncertainty, trust and doubt, feeling like I am in the flow, and feeling really out of sorts.

So what do I do?

I have very basic practices that I rely on. These are my daily practices as well simple prayers/mantras. When I feel this way, I turn to them. If I can just do the minimum, that is good enough.

Generally speaking, I don’t like “just good enough”. I like to advance myself by doing all I can do. But sometimes that does not work. Today is a “just good enough day”…and I’m ok with that. I know my pattern, and I never stay here very long anymore.

 

No One’s Mind Works Like Yours 

Whether or not you are on a spiritual path, the title of this post holds true. No one thinks the way you do; no one’s mind operates as yours does. Everyone has completely different mental associations regarding very basic experiences (much less the more complicated ones!) and from those mental associations everyone has different emotions attached to those experiences; neurologically, everyone thus also has different patterns of brain/body activity in the form of tiny electrical neuron “signals”.

For example, we all know what “breakfast” is. Some people eat breakfast in a car (and everyone’s car is different) some at work (and everyone’s work is different), some not at all. People’s experience of place is different. Some people eat a Mcsandwich, some donuts, some fruit and a nutrition bar. Everyone’s experience of substance is different. 

These types of difference are noticeable and easily overcome if the place or substance changes, like having pancakes on the weekends, joining a friend at a restaurant, or socializing after a Sunday meeting.

The invisible associations like emotions or neuron patterns are much more difficult to ascertain, but these invisible associations influence behavior, and thus can affect how people relate to others. 

For example, what if breakfast is the loneliest point in a child’s day? What if breakfast is where two spouses argue over their hectic schedules and how little time they have for each other or for themselves? What if breakfast is where grandma sits quietly drinking coffee…then one day grandma is no longer there? 

You never really know how people have experienced anything. You never really know what mental/emotional associations people bring to situations and relationships.

Sometimes, this is called “baggage”, but it’s only referred to as such when it causes “a problem”, when there is a lack of understanding about those invisible influences.

Doing personal or spiritual work sheds light on these invisible influences. An adult who was a lonely child may intentionally separate him or herself at a group breakfast, because being lonely is what they know and are comfortable with. Arguing over time and responsibility may be an expression of really wanting more love and time with that other person. A loud or boisterous person may be expressing a need to fill a sad void. 

These influences are underneath everyone’s behavior. When we become aware of such associations within ourselves,  we are able to understand our behaviors better. Understanding brings greater choice, greater self-determination. We are no longer susceptible to the unseen influences, because we can see them for what they are and how they affect us. We can choose how we want them to affect us or if we want them to affect us.

More than this, we can begin to see the invisible influences that affect others, and bring patience, love, and acceptance to people and our interactions. 

There are many ways to clear your own mind, gain awareness, and bring in the light of understanding. You have options. Do you already do this work? What do you do? If you’d like some suggestions or don’t know where to start, reach out to me and we’ll talk.