It’s Okay to Be Yourself -Fulfillment (1.6.39)

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Guiding Thought

May those who seek help others find;

May those who sorrow be compassionate;

May those who are lost, light a path for another;

May those who question or doubt give guidance;

May those who worry lift the burden of another;

May those who hide see their own light in the eyes of a stranger;

May we all give peace, no matter what.


Today, I just finished reading The Law of One, by Ra, a humble messenger of the Law of One, Book I.

After reading this book, I recognize that concepts like today’s Guiding Thought are not going to appeal to many people–the ideas are nice in theory, but hard in practice to many. Very few people, apparently are oriented toward service to others; more people are oriented toward service to self (as in their individual self), and “giving peace, no matter what” is not an easy or a natural extension of service to self.

My mind has really opened to the many, various paths that people are on, after reading this book. Prior to reading the Ra Material, I now recognize that I thought there were “better” or “higher” paths–and that ideas such as those contained in the Guiding Thoughts represent those “better” or “higher” paths. But now… I am re-thinking, reconsidering, re-working, integrating new ideas and concepts. Expansion and growth, now that’s what the Journey is about–finding unexpected surprises and integrating those understandings into a greater/deeper understanding of the variety of life-experiences.

Let me be clear: This does not mean that I would necessarily integrate ideas or concepts into my own “identity”, or accept the energy or vibration for myself, but it does mean that I am more accepting (non-judgmental) of others who might think/feel/behave differently than I would on my path.

Here is how the ideas from the book break down for me, regarding this:

There is only one law: the law of One. This is not a difficult concept for me; I’ve been working with this idea for several years now. “I am not the ocean, but the ocean and I are one”. We are all not the ocean, yet one with the ocean. This is a hard concept for a lot of people. One way to warm up to it, is to let your mind wander into the ideas of infinity and eternity. Just muse about those concepts on a daily basis, they will plant seeds to help in accepting the law of One.

We all serve God, regardless… Everyone serves God. Period.

There are two orientations that people can take to serve God: Service to self (as in the individual self) or Service to other (as in other people, what could be called “humanitarian” in the most expansive sense).

Although we choose which orientation we want, we do so consciously only after we have been in the habit or behavior of it for some time.

Because we have free will, we can always switch our orientation.

These two orientations balance each other. Service to self is known as the “negative” orientation; service to others is known as “positive” orientation. These are not value-judgments of “good” or “bad”, because everyone serves God regardless of which orientation they choose.

Service to self seeks God because service to self is service to All. Service to self uses manipulation, control and power to seek God.

Service to others seeks God, through service to others and uses love, understanding and compassion. This orientation increases the learning/growth exponentially because rather than a 1 to 1 relationship (as with service to self, which only serves self), there is a 1 to many relationship, which spreads out like roots or branches, to all those served.

There are far fewer people currently on the planet who are oriented toward service to others. Both paths are difficult–and we humans have been through so much in our history, dampening our consciousness of seeking God.

This is what encourages me about this:

We are all serving God.  This may be hard to swallow, especially with all of the social-political-ideological disagreements going on these days. But what if you could view everyone as serving God? What if you knew in your heart that regardless of external polarities and disagreements, that everything and everyone is unified in God?

God is with us. God is paying attention. God wants us to seek him, and wants us to realize our oneness with him/her. S/He has not abandoned us–we are all serving the One Infinite Creator.

Know yourself. Be yourself. Walk your path. Be aware! Understand your choices. Choose consciously. Whatever you do, whoever you are, dig deep into yourself and be yourself. Be authentic. Follow your heart. Don’t worry, there is no wrong…just learn, and seek, and learn, and seek.





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“The House that Love Built”: Journey of the Heart 2.0 – Day 30

Journey of the Heart - Day 30 Susan Billmaier for susanwithpearls
Journey of the Heart – Day 30
Susan Billmaier for susanwithpearls

Guiding Thought

Our heart-love establishes our inner-peace.

Solidly grounded in our own inner-peace, we approach all of life with love, compassion, and wisdom.

We live as our Self, shining with the beauty of the Love we are!

-Play the Guiding Thought here (loops automatically).
Journey of the Heart audio created by Brad Vanlandingham for Susanwithpearls-



*I apologize in advance for my language—sometimes certain words express the best.

Recently I was feeling sorry for myself. There was nothing that was different than what I would call “normal”, no obvious impetus to the feeling, nothing that happened. I honestly do not know what the pre-cursor was…

I wallowed for maybe 10 minutes, during which time I thought about why—suddenly—I was feeling this way. Realizing that nothing had happened to instigate the feeling, I had to wonder how real the feeling was. It was almost like the feeling was the memory of a feeling but not the real feeling itself (of course, this pre-supposes feelings are “real” in any way, but we can debate that another time).

I know I have felt this way, this poor-me-self-pity, but it has been a long time. It has to do with feeling overwhelmed with responsibility, overwhelmed with feeling like there’s not enough time to get things done, then feeling stuck because with the feeling of time-constraint I have to prioritize my tasks—and how do I do that? It has had to do with feelings of not being supported or cared for, in the sense of LIFE, or GOD not supporting me, not of a person (although the projection onto another person had been part of the feeling until I evolved past it).

So, I knew all this as I sat there and wallowed. I looked at all these things in those few minutes and remembered…and felt…and thought…and remembered…and felt…and realized I was being a pussy.

Some part of my little head shook me and said, “You are past this. Get over it. Get over yourself. Get up. Do what you need to do. Be happy. This is stupid.”

Then the important thought came: “I cannot serve when I am wallowing in self-pity. I cannot serve God; I cannot serve my family; I cannot serve humankind. Self-pity serves no one”.

What is more, service makes me happy. I was recently told that, speaking in terms of numerology, being service-oriented is part of my make-up, as well as taking care of others. It makes sense to me that I am the kind of person that gets great joy out of service.

Since I want to be happy, and since I realized self-pity does not serve anyone, and since service makes me happy, I pulled myself up and put myself to work, in the service of God. All I did is sweep the porch keeping my mind and task focused on God. That was enough. The smallest task, dedicated to God can bring great joy, restore balance, and instill harmony.

The trick is remembering, then being willing to pull myself up.