Perspective -Fulfillment (1.6.35)

Copyright Tam Black 2018
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In Divine Mind, I am filled full! All are equally filled full. All are equal in Love. I fill my mind with thoughts of fulfillment and remember what I already know. I am determined to fulfill my purpose, to know my Self as Divine Love, and to share the fullness I am.


I frequent my local Trader Joe’s. I’m there once a week, at least, and I have met people over the past four years who I would say are friends. Trader Joe’s seems to me to magnetize fascinating people, as workers. They are people who “do other stuff”, but also happen to work at Trader Joe’s.

When Geoffrey Owens was shamefully shamed about working at TJ’s, I thought, “Man, people just don’t understand the TJ’s vibe”. TJ employees–at least the ones I have gotten to know– are people who are totally identified with something more than their J-O-B. They have other things that they do, that they LOVE, that are supported and nurtured through the income they receive from TJ’s.

One of my TJ’s friends moved here from another country to start a church with his wife and children–and that church is thriving. Another friend does Reiki, teaches cooking classes, and is a personal chef. Another one survived cancer. Another is an actor who had a syndicated series, made several appearances on West Wing, and guest starred on Star Trek: Deep Space 9. These are well-rounded people doing things with their lives. Amazing amazing people.

The friend I spoke with today, though…he’s the reason I’m talking about Trader Joe’s.

Before I spoke with him today, I knew he moved here from Nigeria; I knew he played soccer; I knew he still has family in Nigeria, who he is supporting… He is always good-humored, always gives me hugs, always smiling…

And today I got a whole new perspective from this wonderful Nigerian man.

He’s trying to get a job as a corrections officer. I said to him, “I hope you get it…but I would really hope that you could get a job that does not sap the life out of you.”

He smiled, and said,

Noo. Noo. This job could not sap the life out of me (try hearing this with a Nigerian accent). You do not know what I have been through. You do not know what I have seen. For 14-15 years I have seen… from just a child. I was in a line, like this, my mom, my brothers, all in line for interrogation. there were 2 doors. After 5 minutes in interrogation you go out one door, you are shot right there, the other door you go. You don’t know which door…there was a man ahead of me in line. Alive one minute. Dead the next….

I was traveling getting away… a neighbor came to my mother and said…I see a body; I think it’s your son… my mother could not go to identify the body. I came home from travelling. Identified my brother–head cut off. We were like this growing up. I had to identify my brother…

I jumped on a boat to get away. That’s all you can do, get away. They would not let us on the boat, they refused. We were all standing there, and just over there (he points about 200 feet away, across the parking lot), there was the war, fighting, coming closer. The man next to me, standing with his boy on his shoulders, we are all trying to get on the boat and >ping< he is shot. Then >ping< >ping< >ping< people around me are getting shot. I jumped on the boat. [this boat he’s talking about became infamous…read about it here: Ghana Refuses to Take In a Boatload of Liberian Refugees.

I asked him, “How do you keep going? How do you stay motivated after all that”? He said:

You keep moving. You go away. That is all you can do. All these things they make us stronger. We Nigerians, we strive. We get stronger. I believe in God. I could have joined the rebellion and killed innocent people, but I just kept moving, kept getting away. The war would follow…once my neighbor was killed in the middle of the night for no reason, we left the next day. You just keep moving, you strive, you keep going. You get stronger.


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Energy Transference on Not Pie Day -Healing (1.4.15)

Copyright Tam Black 2018
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Your own Loving Presence is your personal connection with Divine Mind. Attuned to your own Loving Presence, you Know yourself as Whole and Holy. As you feel your Inner Unity, you know: this is all you want; you have found all you seek.


I have been doing my spiritual practices with great enthusiasm. At the beginning of the Journey, I committed to doing some “extra” things to take care of myself physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Something is happening. I don’t know what, but people saw it today, and commented on it.

I went to Trader Joe’s for a few staples (that’s a standard pantry item, not a small metal thing that holds paper together). Now, I love Trader Joe’s. My regular TJ’s is near where I go to my j-o-b. There, lot’s of TJ “mates” know me by name, and I always get hugs when I go there. I once had a conversation with one of the mates there, who noted that “TJ employees are all empathic; that’s why they are so attentive to the customer, and why people like coming to TJ’s”–the staff is always paying attention on an emotional-(dare I say spiritual?) level. It’s at least one of the reasons I like going there; the hugs are also a reason, as is the free small samples of coffee, not to mention the standard pantry items I get every week or so.

Today, I did not go to my regular TJ’s. But I still got a hug! (more on that in a minute). Three very interesting energy exchanges happened in the span of about 5 minutes.

You know energy exchanges? Some of you do. It’s when there is a transference of energy between people. This is always happening…always. But most people are not aware of it. Think of yourself as a firefly, flying around flashing a certain pattern of light. When that light is observed by a “mate” (ok, there’s a pun here, since TJ’s calls their employees “mates” LOL) that lighting bug flashes back in a way that is seen and understood by the first firefly. Most people (as fireflies) miss the lighting-up of other people. They never see the energy to have real communication.

I had three people who recognized my lighting-up (to continue the metaphor). And each one had their own reaction to it.

The first time it happened, I was looking at the pies, yum! I had been thinking about pie earlier today, and here was an opportunity to fulfill my desire and have pie, yum! As I was looking, a woman approached me, touched my elbow and said, “resist! resist!” I looked up from my pie reverie and made direct eye-contact, in which we saw each other (do you know what I mean? If not, that’s for another day…so if you’d like more, drop me a note). In that moment of seeing, I said with complete openness, “…but I was just thinking about pie (yum!)”. She said, “resist the sugar!” but at that point, I could tell my directness and openness (my presence) had taken her a bit aback, almost startled her–most people do not respond in a way that is real or human these days. She walked away very quickly, without saying anything more. I did not get pie, by the way; there was only apple and blueberry, and I did not have a taste for either of those.

The second time, a mere moment later, I was at the cash register, and the gentleman ringing up my order said, “so what’s going on with you, what is in your life, what’s happening?” This kind of inquiry is odd, even from a TJ’s mate. I wasn’t quite sure what he was addressing, or what was on his mind…this was more than a normal check out greeting. So I told him that I was off work, loving being off work, and enjoying life! He said, “yeah–it shows, you are radiating, glowing. I’m liking the vibe”. LOLOL. Who knew!? I thought this interaction validated my other friend-mate’s observation that TJ employees are empathic.

The third exchange was on my way out the door, when I saw a familiar face who had transferred to this store, from my regular store. I stopped, touched his shoulder, greeted him with a big smile and gave him a hug. It was mere seconds. I apologized to the woman in line for interrupting her transaction, and she said, “that’s ok, my stuff will just melt”. She wasn’t joking…this was the comment she came up with observing that exchange. I decided that this too was a legitimate reaction to observing this (apparent) “radiance”. Most people don’t get it and don’t want it. Energy scares a lot of people who are not used to it, and they fall into comfortable patterns–and most people’s comfortable patterns are skeptical, “negative”, “victim”, etc. Goodness knows, I don’t always know what to do with other people’s energy, and I can be thrown “off” sometimes.

My point with all this?

Unity. Wholeness. Whether they know it or not, people can “see” or “feel” energy, and they respond to it. You are doing it right now. We are having an energy exchange. I love you! Do you see? Everything matters. All your thoughts, words, actions radiate out–whatever they are. What do you radiate? How do people respond to you? How do you respond to people?


Stronger Together: Journey of Freedom 2017–Day 38

Copyright Tam Black 2015
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My connection with the Infinite Source of Love is and always has been enough. Love loves me always, everywhere. Assured in love, I am perfectly lovable and perfectly loving with all people in all situations. 


I have a connection to the Infinite Source of Love.

You have a connection to the Infinite Source of Love.

We have a connection to the Infinite Source of Love.

Right here, right now: you are connected to Love. You are connected to me, as I am to you, through Love.

The Love that Loves me always and everywhere Loves you always and everywhere.

We always have access to that Love. We always have an infinite supply.

Yesterday, I was at Trader Joe’s, my lunchtime hangout (yes, I am there at least once a week). I got to the checkout, and began the usual, “Hi, how are you” with the cashier. This was a cashier I did not know; I know many of them, but not this one. As he was responding to my “Hi, how are you”, he gave a slight indication that there was more to his response than the template answer.

So I asked him, “really–how is everything”?

He put his hand to his heart, rolled his head and eyes and started to say something real. After just a few jumbled words, he stopped himself and said, “Now I’m getting too philosophical…Let’s just say I’m going through a rough time right now…”

Normally, I would have replied with some quip about how philosophy is AOK with me! but this time, I looked right at him, and said, “if it’s any consolation, everyone is having a rough time right now, we’re all in this together, we’ll get through it together.”

I think he did not know what to do with my intensity. He stumbled over the words, “yeah, stronger together…”

YES. Stronger together.

Whatever way he meant it– even if he was being cliche because he did not know what else to say/do–YES. Stronger together.

I know how meant it; I know that I was connecting with Infinite Love, asking It to be with him, and telling him in unspoken words that I am here for you, >love< —take some, there’s plenty, be strengthened and encouraged.

I don’t know what he got. That’s how it is; we never really know what the recipient actually experiences. The interaction was too brief for me to see anything beyond the next, “your receipt’s in the bag, have a good rest of your day”.

We really are stronger together, and we need to strengthen and encourage each other daily if we are going to get through this (whatever this is–for you, for your neighbor, for the cashier at the store…).

Love is infinite. We are connected through Love. Share freely.